Then they looked at whether the reviewers saw these people as more or less socially attractive (i.e., whether they wanted to spend time with them) and trustworthy, and whether that influenced their desire to date them. (How often have you detagged unflattering photos on Facebook?
One study termed this practice “profile as promise”: Online daters create a vision of who they could be, rather than who they are.
Compared with real life, people who meet online actually display more initial social attraction to each other -- they are more interested in hanging out with each other than people who randomly meet face-to-face -- but they also display far less trust.
In 2015, Pew found that 15 percent of American adults -- and nearly a third of 18- to 24-year-olds -- had used an online dating site or app.
But with a seemingly infinite dating pool, especially in major cities, it can be really hard to figure out who might make a good match, and how to present yourself so as to find one.
People appreciated those who seemed humble but also specific, and especially those who had other sources do their bragging for them.
These people were thought to be honest but also approachable.But the study suggests that, when it comes to online dating, this approach may backfire.The researchers found that people with high selective self-presentation were seen as bragging about their looks and their accomplishments -- and were in turn seen as less socially attractive and less trustworthy.Online dating has made potential partners much more readily available than ever before -- and yet also, somehow, disposable.The other day I was sitting on a train with a friend as she flicked through profiles on Bumble, an online dating service in which women have to reach out to men first.The reason is probably that, at this point, online daters are wary of profiles that promise too much.