When it comes to sex, men are ready to go at any time, right? Not even a surprise birthday visit from his girlfriend wearing lingerie could pique his interest one time when he was deep in thought.
“It’s rare that I don’t want to have sex, but the times I will say no are when I’m thinking about something intensely and I can’t pull myself out of it,” he explains.
It may be difficult to imagine that a healthy heterosexual man would turn down a woman wearing a thong. “In the last two years, I’ve noticed more clients of mine than before are men lacking sexual desire and it’s the women who are initiating sex,” he says.
If your partner is turning down your advances there’s probably a good explanation for his lack of interest-and it likely has nothing to do with how he feels about you.
There are plenty of online resources available to help you and your partner better understand depression and how it can affect your relationship.
(The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, for example, has some tips on how to cope.) The key here is patience, especially during treatment-while antidepressants are very effective in treating depression, they can also contribute to low sexual interest.
“I was feeling pensive and I didn’t want to be outside of myself.
And with sex, you want to connect with somebody,” he says. is far from alone in this situation, says Vancouver-based sex therapist David Mc Kenzie.
“Growing up, guys always talk about being a player and being able to perform well sexually.
It’s part of guy culture.” What you can do: This can be a difficult subject to discuss with your partner, but don’t avoid the issue, says Mc Kenzie.
A problem left untreated could result in resentment between partners down the road.