Around the room you’ll find canes, wooden paddles, a hockey stick – and a copy of Soundings, of course.Clients can dress up like schoolgirls, with a selection of uniforms for them to choose from.‘I did that to him’ Though she has come up against criticism from people in Ireland’s fetish community who claim she is only in this for the money – she charges €250 for two hours of her time – Lara says she gets real enjoyment and fulfillment out of her job. A petite brunette, she comes across as chatty, funny and kind and this soft side of her is something she thinks appeals to her clients.
A dominatrix, or mistress, is a woman who plays a dominant role in bondage, dominance, submission and sadomasochism (BDSM) activities.
At her Dublin property, Mistress Lara has four unique rooms for clients to enjoy these activities.
LARA ARRIVES INTO work at 7am most mornings, she puts the kettle on for a cup of tea, sits down and starts going through her emails.
But unlike the somewhat mundane messages most people open up in the morning, Lara’s inbox is teeming with written accounts of man’s deepest fantasies.
For those who enjoy BDSM, is can be as psychological as it is physical and that is why Lara put so much effort into these play rooms.
Many simply enjoy the pain of being spanked, whipped, pinched and probed, but for others it is all about handing over control to another person, or in some cases being humiliated by a person who is above them in status. It’s like when you talk to someone who’s on the receiving end, the submissive or the masochist, and they can’t explain why they get such a buzz out of it. To look at and to speak to, Lara is one of the last people you would suspect is secretly tying men up and tearing into them with a bullwhip five days a week.
Now there were other things that in my head I thought this might be okay with because of that.
One of the other things was that he wanted to have his head shoved in the toilet – I know, cliché, but it’s kind of like ‘you’re disgusting, look at the mess you’ve made’. He was on his knees and I was giving out to him saying: ‘I’m really annoyed at you for using such bad language and I’m not having it, this is not going to be allowed continue, is that understood?
At the time, he was gagging, he was really going red in the face and I thought ‘oh shit, maybe I’ve gone a bit too far with this one’.
“It literally only happened 20 seconds, but afterwards he said to me: ‘That was absolutely brilliant, that was one of the best parts of the session I’m sorry you didn’t keep going for longer’.” ‘I don’t have any cows…’ Lara’s clients range in age from 25 to 76 (the eldest is “a spring chicken, flying around”, apparently).
That is not to say she can not turn on the “bossy bitch” if that is the client’s preference, however.