I don’t think they are likely to just throw there hands up and say oh you got me.
But I am saying that if it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck: It’s probably a duck. Once you realize that the way you feel about a situation is enough of a reason to change it, you start to take more rapid & honest action! I love the point of speaking up and being honest about it.
If you’ve checked the phone and there’s nothing there, this is still your issue. I remember last year when my girlfriend told me her ex-boyfriend got hired at her workplace, I initially felt a bit uneasy and I was worried I may be jealous later, so I told her upfront that I was ok with it (not that it needed my approval or anything) but I’ve had jealousy issues in the past and wanted to just be upfront with her about my history so we could have open communication about it.
If you have that feeling and you can’t find anything then maybe have the talk. The way you feel is evidence enough that something is off.
But don’t let on that you suspect something because you may be right but never find any evidence. Why would you want to be in a relationship that leads to you feeling like you want to snoop around and gather evidence?
It was scary to be honest and vulnerable but it made me feel a lot more at ease about the situation and things never became a problem. Yes, it can definitely be scary opening up and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, but in the end it’s always worth it.
By being open and honest, you gave your ex-girlfriend the opportunity to approach the situation with more awareness.
you checking her cell phone, etc.) Reply I don’t know, Wouldn’t checking the phone and other media for suspicious activity be following your gut.
If you confront or lead on to believing that something bad might be happening, then your likely to make that person protect or destroy the evidence now that they know that you know something.
For all of you that have already checked the cell phone, and that stumbled upon some suspicious text messages or phone calls, I gently say to you wake up. Figure out what’s really going on, and if that twisting feeling won’t go away do not ignore it. I try every day to face things head on like you suggested here, & it has worked wonders in my personal life!