Here's some comfort for parents: young children want a quick, simple answer, older kids want a quick simple answer.
Have you ever noticed how children take what they need and then are off to do their thing?
Teenagers have asked if crossing their fingers during sex would prevent pregnancy. Whether parents do it well or do it poorly, they're the first educators when it comes to their kids.
Lunquist reminds parents they don't have to be experts, but they do need access to unbiased information.
• When it comes to myths around sexuality, do you ever encounter children who have been physically and emotionally damaged in families that hold to such myths?
Lunquist's response: I certainly think that we harm our children by not being open and honest with them about this gift of sexuality.
We need to give the proper names to all of the body parts.
So sexuality education is ongoing, mostly not formal, and certainly not a one-shot "talk." Reader veggiegirl11 asked if there's anything she can tell her daughter to encourage her to stay true to herself. She is one of the few girls in her class that isn't already obsessed with boys and wearing makeup.
What can I tell her to encourage her to keep that up? Lunquist's response: Thanks Mom for lovingly being aware of your daughter’s growing up process and being alert to the many influences that she will be impacted by.
What do I need to worry that the other kids are telling her (that may not be true! While there is never a way to guarantee that our kids will be forever safe and happy, we can “increase the house odds” by demonstrating that we are askable, taking advantage of teachable moments, and making sure that our young people have medically accurate information, practice in making decisions, and daily confidence that you are, and will remain, actively present in their lives.
"Sexuality is a wonderful, positive part of our lives from birth to death," she said.