Imagine your "boyfriend" is somewhere, with another girl watching as he does not answer his phone when you call, and he's with her.
You have been dating for quite some time now and you still haven't met his friends. If you have been dating for a long time and are intimate with each other, and time after time you invite him to spend the night, but he refuses, or avoids, or makes excuses – he probably has a girlfriend.
Not only will this lead to embarrassment, it brings heartache as well.
A guy doesn’t need to know what colour knickers you are wearing in order to get to know you. He seems to call only when it’s 1) dark, 2) late and 3) to arrange when to have sex.
You’ll also find that a lot of the conversation is surface and that it tends to serve the greater purpose of making you feel comfortable enough… It is amazing how this can creep up on you and it’s only when you step back and think about when they’re calling and how much the relationship has progressed (relationships based around sex don’t progress) that you realise that you’re being used for sex. Your ‘relationship’ hasn’t progressed past him buying you drinks/dinner and ending up in bed. No matter what promise you thought this relationship had, it has faltered or come to a halt because the focal point is the sex.
There are guys that think: paid for date = getting laid that night.
This is not much better than treating someone like a prostitute and certainly is not an indicator of a man that wants to forge a relationship with you. He doesn’t want to try to get to know your personality.
It’s not because he’s not ready for a relationship yet; it’s because he just wants to have sex and is emotionally unavailable too.
That’s two not so great qualities for the price of…well…your sanity! He expects something in return for taking you out to dinner and paying for the meal.He’s not interested in building on anything other than his hard-on.If you try to do couplely things, he’s likely to be very uncomfortable or will go along with things but create conflict so he’s effectively sabotaging any chance of progress.Remember that with this type of guy, every time that think you may want, need, or expect too much, he’ll do something crappy. He doesn’t want to do anything that involves talking to each other properly unless it leads to sex. While some will stick around and dignify you with a cuddle, many don’t like to stay the night in case you think things are getting serious.Try having a conversation with him that reeks of two people in a ‘normal’ relationship and note his patent discomfort. The ones that do stay over and hang around, are astute enough to play the game to avoid creating conflict, but that doesn’t change the fact that they just want sex.I know; talk about stating the obvious but, have you any idea how many women are actually told by a guy that they just want to have ‘fun’ and aren’t looking for a relationship? When you’re out on a date, be wary of guy who turns the conversation down the sexual route too quickly.