I asked him for a picture, and he sent me a video clip of him as a police officer where two of his friends shocked him with a taser gun because they thought it was funny. ” -Amy W., 39Expert take: Men and women find different things attractive and look for different things in profiles.“He probably thought the video was cool, that he looked like a tough guy, and that Amy would see it the same way,” Davis says.D., co-author of Her take: “The first guy I dated when I moved to New York let me take care of him, which I thought would lead to a relationship.
Her take: “I went out with a guy I met online who seemed really sweet and charming. A few days later, he texts me to say that he isn't looking for a girlfriend—just casual sex.
I felt cheated and hurt.” -Andrea C., 31Expert take: Even if a guy doesn’t say straight out in his profile that he’s only looking for hook-ups, some will offer hints.
Expert take: A lot of guys have two categories of women they’re dating: the women they just want to have sex with and the women they’re interested in having long-term relationships with, Kerner says.
In this situation, Kate might have been giving too much too soon.
“Allison may have had a sense of intimacy that was never there in the first place, while he was probably dating other people,” he says.
Don’t assume someone is going to be committed unless you’ve talked about it.Men want a woman who needs them and asks things of them, Davis adds.So if you ever feel like you’re bending to his every will and aren’t getting as much out of the relationship as he is, reevaluate things.After he arrived at my place, he got a phone call saying his grandmother was being sent to the emergency room. When I went onto Facebook within a few days to see how his family was doing, I noticed he changed my status to ‘limited profile,’ so I couldn’t access everything on his page.After that, all communication from him died.” -Allison G., 26Expert take: Social media can create transparency and a false sense of familiarity, Kerner says.It’s also easy to build up a fantasy of what someone is like when you’re long distance.