“I don’t have a lot of time to date,” says Edmonton mom of two boys Felicia Dewar.
“Online dating allows me to weed people out.” Sara Smith,* 41, also used Internet dating, but she did it because she lives in a small town.
Accept that dating is hard “You never know what’s going on in kids’ minds,” says psychotherapist Naomi Galloway.
Dating is hard, but with a kid in the picture, it’s much harder.” How hard is it? Also, this someone needs to be really OK with you being a parent.
“They may actually genuinely think they’re being replaced.
“Everybody is looking for a formula,” says Guthrie. What to tell the kids if you break up So what happens if the kid grows attached to the new beau, but you’re calling it quits? “For example, say, ‘this is like friends who move away.’ Be firm about the relationship ending, but provide an age-appropriate explanation for what happened.” 6.
What to do if the kids are unhappy with your relationship Guthrie says that even if there isn’t conflict with an ex, and even if the relationship is going well, there’s always the potential that not everyone is happy with the new arrangement.
There’s a man in my house and he’s not my dad,” an outraged five-year-old Kevin* tells me when I go to visit my friend Tara Jenkin* (who had recently split up with Kevin’s father). Then you have to make all the elements gel—you and the kids and the new love interest.
I watch as Kevin, grinning maniacally, jumps on Jenkin’s new boyfriend’s back and pulls down his pants. Finally, there’s the potential that the relationship may not work out, and both you and your kids have to say goodbye.
Some girls found his situation cute—a guy with a baby being a step up from a guy with a puppy—but many of them weren’t mature enough to handle the reality. “It was Canada Day, and my girlfriend came over and we put the baby to bed and watched the fireworks going off in the park from the window.
She said: ‘I feel like I’ve been grounded.’” Hutchison couldn’t hang out at the bar on Fridays or go to parties on Saturdays.
Troy Hutchison, 36, from London, Ont., had to be an adult early in life.
He became a single dad with full custody of his then-four-year-old, Nivek, when he was 23.
She says she has thought of officially introducing her boyfriend to her seven-year-old son, but decided against it because she didn’t want her ex to know about the new man in her life just yet.