Cognitive thinking is fantastic when it comes to engineering, solving a math problem, or working on a science formula.
But it’s not the way to think when it comes to meeting and talking to the ladies.
Do you want to make your date a success every time?
Go back to the drawing board with your appearance and get yourself a new style or a complete makeover. In terms of the energy that you produce, you need to work on making people feel better when you are around.
Work on having a more positive energy, becoming more of an optimist, spreading good vibes, being smiley and happy, and just being in more of a relaxed state of mind so that people really love being around you and your positivity. A lot of guys that struggle with girls are cognitive thinkers; they tend to over-analyze situations and think with total logic.
I have no problem conversing and openly expressing myself.
However, on a date in front of a beautiful girl, I would just crumble.
The total package is what attracts any girl to a guy in the first place.
Spend more time working on your look, your appearance, and your energy.
You are most likely putting an enormous amount of pressure on yourself. You want to say a couple of words that are just going to blow her away.
You put a lot of pressure on yourself when this is your primary focus.
There are no top conversation starters, no magic words. There are no words that are going to just make her instantly attracted to you and want to take you home instantly. When you learn to recognize this right off the bat, then the pressure will ease up and you’ll be better able to focus on the ability to just engage her in a nice, normal conversation.