I have tried a combination of online dating, speed dating, professional singles events, volunteering, happy hours etc. I thought that online dating would be great since you are essentially pre-screening people for dates.I have found that I get no responses from any women online and the only women who respond to my ad are usually much older and don’t meet any of my criteria outlined in my profile.
Most people want to find a friend or a life partner, and to meet the dates who may fulfill this desire, many 50-somethings, about 80 percent in fact, do it the old-fashioned way — through friends or family. Dating after 40 or 50 means taking control of your love life, just like you do the rest of your life. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right? His manners, his shirt, his smile, the way he talks about his kids. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date.
It means being kind to yourself and the men you meet. I have compiled a list of Dating Do’s and Don’ts exclusively for women like you. These are for the woman who is done repeating the same mistakes, and is ready to find her grown-up love story. It starts off innocently with a question like “So what happened with your marriage? Nothing positive can possibly come from this, sister. Yes, I know he said he was going to call you, I know you had a great date and want to see him again. That’s especially true of the grownup men that you’re dating. Unless you can talk with your dude about safe sex and the status of your relationship after intimacy, steer clear of the sack. Start off with the positive and try to stay in mode before you decide he’s not right for you.
Third, you need to consider if you ever want to be a mother and to share the magical firsts of bringing life into the world with a much older man. Sexually you may be turned on by an older man's attention, and he has had a lot of experience seducing women over the last two decades while you were...well, do the math.
Even if this man is mature "enough" for you now, psychologists agree that this type of age difference will confirm a "parent-child dynamic" where you are never equals, and the lack of true intimacy is the reality.
I am told that women want to settle down and have kids, etc., but their actions seem to be to the contrary.
At singles events, women come in groups and are reluctant to talk to men.Steer clear of these topics until you know each other better. Your 25-year-old may want to linger and go down the rabbit hole trying to figure it all out. Take care of yourself by initiating a conversation and sharing your needs and wants. This keeps you open to someone who might not be your type. Keep your body language open, play with your hair, smile, touch his arm. The grown-up dater gives him a reasonable amount of time to show up, and then says a big “So what! If you are dealing with a grown-up man he will appreciate and respect you for it. (Because after all, your type hasn't worked or you would be reading this.) 5. The reason you have similar personalities and outlooks may not be a good thing. Right now he is attracted to your youth and beauty, and your admiration of him as the experienced older man. I guarantee your outlook and even parts of your personality will change in the next decade, and your feelings will likely change as well.You may indeed be very mature for your age, but he may be immature or looking to escape being an adult.Ultimately, you will grow to want and know you deserve someone that is an adult, not a boy in a man's body.