I met a dude online a while back and I’m starting to get the feeling that he might be gay :/ I actually asked him if he was and he got pretty defensive… What you actually communicated to him was that he is unsuccessful at making you happy, and convincing you he really is a man.
Over time, men who are constantly emasculated and put down by their women, will withdraw and move away from the relationship. The number one most important thing to men in a relationship is… Maybe it’s left over from the days when you had to worry about getting eaten by a saber tooth tiger, and you needed to make sure that your buddy had your back; otherwise, you’d get eaten. etc.” In a relationship, we’re supposed to have a teammate who is committed to similar life goals and outcomes.
In order for a man to feel validated in his relationship, he needs to feel that he is successful at making her happy and showing her a good time. Men want to be loved by a woman who lovingly builds them up even when they are not around. In our moments of weakness and doubt, we want our girl to whisper into our ear confidently, “Honey, I believe in you. For the women who only bitch and never try to be sweet, they always leave their men thinking and feeling, “whose team are you on anyways?
Most women who do not understand men, seem to think that being a pest, nagging or pointing out everything their men do wrong is how to get them to do what they want, or treat them the way they want to be treated.
These women obviously learned the dysfunctional behavior of whining and bitching as the strategy to get men to do what they want, or give them what they wanted.
Why would we want to listen to a woman bashing us and telling us all of the things we are doing wrong, or aren’t doing that are making her unhappy?
If you are a man whose woman constantly emasculates you, then you need to explain to her in a loving way how you want to be treated, and why and how her behavior is detrimental to the long-term success of your relationship.
You need to be direct, to the point and give him specific instructions.
Men will happily give you what you want, when you are sweet and ask lovingly.
My comments (are in bold brackets like this) in the body of her e-mail: Hi Coach Corey!