Sure there are a few people who actually leave their wives when they have met their “soul mate”. Although he gets to the point where he is saying he loves the side chick, he is usually more in love with his kids.
In a loveless marriage with small children, the kids become more of a silver lining and the focus of all the reasons to deal with the unhappiness of no sex and conversation that only revolves around household duties (“did you pay the light bill?
The cycle of the love affair with a married man almost always ends in broken hearts, hurt, and wasted time.
”, “Johnny has band practice tomorrow, can you pick him up? Often the fear of what others will think will not let him do it, as the man does not want to become the “bad guy” in their eyes as the daddy who left in their early years.
Nobody wants to be in a relationship that doesn’t grow.
”, and perceives this as being put first (the one thing that women want to feel in a relationship).
By this time, she is more than likely already aware of the fact that he is unhappy in his marriage and the more time she spends with him she makes sure to plea her case as to why he should be with her instead.
However, filling the void may backfire on him, as the relationship may escalate from occasional lunches during work hours or early dinners disguised as “working late”, to the more intimate texting and instant messages all night long.
This is hook line and sinker for the woman, as she automatically thinks, “oh, he wants to talk to me so badly that he’s risking getting caught!
The love affair with the married man starts with a man who married for the wrong reasons and thus never truly felt fulfilled in his commitment to the wife.
They probably have kids together and that is the only bond they share.
The other woman can’t call him or see him when she wants to.