More matches are played in the course of a day or week here than anywhere else that I’ve lived.
In the intervening years, I’ve had time to reflect on my comings and goings. But then I hear these plaintive words of Jesus, “You do not want to leave too, do you?
” And immediately I think of all those whom I’ve left, those to whom I didn’t give a second chance, those moments in life that maybe I abandoned too soon, without letting things play out all the way.
If you’re lucky and have a bit of skill, you might even win! So, for instance, in the game of dating, if you find that your checkers are stuck behind your opponent’s prime, then you should absolutely — for the sake of your self-respect — resign the game.
When that happens you look back and think, “I’m glad I didn’t cut and run. I’m glad I stayed in the game.” *** Games are a metaphor for life and many things that you can learn from playing a game like backgammon or football also apply to real life. And here’s something else I’ve been told: if your opponent — be it your spouse, your lover, your business partner or your colleague — takes power from you, then you better darn well take it back.
*** In addition to playing backgammon, I’ve spent some time recently discovering the rules of the game of the world — at least as far as that game gets played here in the city, day in and day out.
And, mind you, I really don’t think New York is all that different from anywhere else. It’s just that I’ve noticed that things cycle faster here.
Now if you know the game, you’ll follow me right away.
If you don’t, I promise to make this plain and simple.
Sometimes for good reasons, sometimes for not so good reasons.