The problem is the way you’re defining the problem. In some areas of your life as a woman of faith, things ARE black or white.
You may have also been taught to avoid being “worldly” by dressing modestly, avoiding places where secular music is being played and opting out of the modern dating process and instead pray that you’ll meet your future husband at church.
However, if you look around on any given Sunday, most churches are filled with 80 to 90 women.
You begin to feel like you have to rely upon your own righteousness to prove to God that you deserve a spouse.
So, you try to follow the rules you’ve been given, but these rules don’t always work for every situation you encounter, especially gray areas of life, like which college you should apply to or what you should wear to work tomorrow or whether you should use online dating, because there aren’t explicit commandments about what to do about those daily life situations. In other words, make choices about your life based on who you are in God, not by what someone else has decided you can and cannot do.
And of the 10 men who may attend your church, TWO of them might be single (and they are probably not eligible).
Chances are, most Christian singles will not meet their future spouses at a church.
Teenagers obsess about love, from crushes in homeroom and first boyfriends to picking the perfect date for prom.
But for 15-year-old Jazz Jennings, romance is a little harder.
She connected with a guy friend, and they went to a butterfly park.
"My hands were sweating, my stomach was making horrible noises and my heart was pounding so much that I thought I was going to pass out," she remembers. "It was a great afternoon, and he even told me he'd like to go out again," she says.
So how do you navigate the modern dating world when you’re a Christian who wants to please God?