Stephanie describes Chinese men as “effeminate” and “small-sized” people who don’t have the capability to have a relationship with a foreign woman.“If anything, [foreign women are] considered too dominant, turning the majority of them off with our independent personalities and strong opinions,” she wrote. Stephanie writes that Chinese men are interested in “engaging us in one night stands or brief flings, but then cutting things off abruptly when it’s time for the relationship to move into serious territory.” Despite her condescending view of Chinese men, Stephanie hopes to have a relationship with a Chinese man in Shanghai, warning them to “watch out because here I come!For a restless soul looking for answers, China can serve as another another rung up the corporate ladder or a fresh start.
Perhaps Stephanie needs to raise the plight of expat women in China by taking expat men down a peg.
After all, she did write “[expat women] have to accept their singleness or grow old waiting for white guys to come to their senses”.
“Honestly, I fell for you the first time I saw you,” the guy confesses, and the two soon begin a relationship.
But the romance turns dark when she learns David is, in fact, a foreign agent who ruthlessly uses Li to obtain government documents.
Such an impossible situation is made possible by Chinese women who aren’t able to say “no” when it comes to expat men.
Even though they have the edge on Caucausian women with their “slender, pliable figures”, the beauty of Chinese becomes a disadvantage when it comes to foreign men who are “more blunt about what they want than the average local fellows”.
Stephanie and other expat woman can’t help but rail against the sexual tirade of expat men who have risen to the top of the dating heap in Shanghai. One night stands might be fun for the first several years in China, but the constant merry-go-round of meaningless flings here gets old pretty fast.
Human beings are hardwired to eventually make emotional connections, and considering the cultural clashes that many mixed couples seem to encounter – whenever you see a mixed couple in public they always look miserable – it’s inevitable that most foreign males in China will ultimately prefer to marry a white woman than go native.
A recent Chinese propaganda campaign about national security uses a comic called “Dangerous Love” to warn Chinese women not to date foreigners.