Don’t sit around waiting for a boy to make you a priority, communicate his intentions, or even call you on the phone. And this God created and rules his world, including men, women, the biological compulsions that bind them together, and the institution that declares their union and keeps it sacred and safe.
Jesus may ask more of us, but he does so to secure and increase our greatest and longest-lasting (sexual) happiness.
For those whose roads are marked more by mistakes than selflessness, patience, and sound judgment, take hope in the God who truly and mysteriously blesses your broken road and redeems you from it, and who can begin in you a new, pure, wise, godly pursuit of marriage today.
It was not an oversight on the part of the God of all history, as if he couldn’t see into the 21st century.
The qualifications are wonderfully clear and simple: 1) they must believe your God (2 Corinthians ) and 2) they must be of the opposite sex (Genesis –24; Matthew 19:4–6; Ephesians –32).
If Christian dating, the intentional, selfless, and prayerful process of pursuing marriage, sounds like slavery, we don’t get it.
If low-commitment sexual promiscuity sounds like freedom, we don’t get it.
Here are (some) principles for your not-yet marriages.
It’s not nearly a comprehensive or exhaustive list.
Those who recklessly give themselves to a love-life of dating without really dating, of romantic rendezvouses without Christ and commitment, are settling. With this “more,” we can say to the watching world, don’t settle for artificial and thin loyalty, affection, security, and sexual experimentation when God intends and promises so much more through a Christian union.
They’re settling for less than God intended and less than he made possible by sending his Son to rescue and repurpose our lives, including our love-lives, for something more. And a Christian union can only be found through Christian dating.
” The vision of marriage we see in God’s word –– the beautiful, radical display of God’s infinite, persevering love for sinners –– makes it worth it to date, and date well.