Before you found the seduction community, you were nice to women because you wanted them to like you.You listened to them complain about their ex- boyfriends because you wanted them to accept you. Then you found the community and everything changed. The seduction community taught you not to listen to them talk about their ex-boyfriends, not to be ‘nice’ to them, not to buy them presents, but you’re still only doing it because you want them to like you.
It is a stock scenario of movies and TV, a well-worn trope. Person A masquerades as Person B and sees the truth. But truth and illumination never developed until he sat in on a female dating profile for 48 hours. And yeah, I'm a man masquerading as a woman, ever so briefly, to check out OK Cupid's men. Why on earth would someone all the way across the country message me? That they'll fly 5 hours to meet at a coffee shop for 35 minutes?
It's a funny set-up when applied to scenarios like the 9-5 working partner not fully understanding the demands of the home-based, child-minding partner. The male half of The Dating Gurus has long heard complaints from women about patently obvious dumb dating profile behaviors that men do.
After 3 weeks of running around, pretending they were invincible, the stark reality started to sink in. It was their internal motivations (for other people, mind you) that drove them towards their goal.
Whilst they’d learned some cool and interesting stuff, they were really not any further down the path than they were before they handed over their hard earned cash. Because they’d spent their time treating the symptoms of their issues rather than the core of what was going on. And you know what, it’s not only the big picture that you’re working towards, it’s small things too.
I’m sure he had your best intentions in mind but he just wasn’t really attuned to what was going on.
The majority of guys I train these days are the ones who paid an obscene amount of money for a bootcamp.
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And I know that what I’m saying here is controversial, but let me show you what’s going on here.
You only get up to get a glass of water because you’re thirsty, you only get go to sleep because you’re tired, you only do the things you do because you think they’re going to get you what you want.
This is evident nowhere more than in your interactions with women.
You bought them presents because you wanted them to validate you as a Man. The seduction community has changed the ‘what’, but still not the ‘why’.