Even a woman’s hymen is no demarcator of virginity; many will rupture their hymen long before they’ve had penetrative vaginal intercourse.
You are no wiser, more mature or otherwise changed from who you were minutes beforehand; the only difference is that you now have a set of memories that you didn’t have before and the need to shower and change the sheets.
Meanwhile, we live in a culture that glorifies male sexual conquests even as it pathologizes male sexuality.
(Which admittedly brings up the question of just who these studs are supposed to be racking up all these lays with, but that’s a matter for another time.) Even in this day and age when women are closer to social and sexual equity than they have ever been before, the double-standard still exists; the ultimate insults to label a woman are “slut” and “prude”.
Here’s the hard and fast truth about virgins and virginity: it’s a completely cultural construct.
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I can’t count the number of letters I’ve gotten from virgin readers, men and women of just about every age who have not had sex yet and are desperately afraid that they’re “too late”.
Not being in a relationship or having a partner during the holidays can feel lonely and impart a sense of permanent singleness. People come to me every day wanting to know 'the secret.' And it really starts with understanding that desire is the real female orgasm.
Everyone it seems wants sex tips, sex hacks, how to make love better. It's hard to feel turned on when people are being flooded with images of fear, violence and feeling like there is a very deep threat to people's personal safety.
Steve Carrell’s character may be middle-aged with a steady job, a sizable apartment, a car and presumably relatively debt free…
but because he’s never managed to actually penetrate a woman, he’s still obsessed with “childish” things.
Some may have had physical intercourse with another person – oral sex, mutual masturbation, possibly even anal sex – but consider themselves virgins because they’ve never had penile/vaginal sex.
Others may have had penetrative sex but not “count” it for one reason or another.
In fact, you could reasonably equate the two; more often than not, you wait for too damn long for a thrill that’s over in under 3 minutes and half the time you’re wondering what the big deal was.