Here's my best advice and things to remember: Women need to think and act the way men do to find happiness. Women have a tendency to meet a guy and then focus their entire lives on him.
How many men do you know who are ruining their lives because of a woman? They will stop thinking about attending school or put business plans on hold after meeting someone who sweeps them off their feet. But if he is, you have truly just shot yourself in the foot because you have given up a piece of yourself for a someone who belongs to another. Look at your lover boy for what he is and control your emotions.
After the divorce, they took care of their children at least half of the time.
You may not have set out to fall in love with a married man, but there are times in life when even the most intelligent women find their emotions getting the better of them.
Loving and dating a married man can be extremely painful and seldom works out well.
But that is what they all say, and when stress and reality get involved, people's emotions and decisions tend to be all the same after all.
For nine years, my friend Darleen dated a man who was married and now regrets it.
Now, how many women do you know who have sacrificed all for a man? If he is obviously lying to you to keep you available to him, consider if the relationship is worth your time or not.
If he can somehow help you in life by making you more successful, paying your bills, or buying you a home, then you have gotten something to show for your time. If he is married and has no intention of leaving his wife, then he may have been dating many women over the years.
Darleen would tell me that if he could leave his wife for her, he certainly would and that her man often showed great concern for whether or not she was cheating on him. I found myself angry quite often as I told Darleen that if he loved her he would divorce his wife rather than play this game with her. She got on her high horse by stating that if a man has kids he can't leave.
I happen to have known several highly moral men who divorced their wives even though they had two or three kids.
Before you go off on a rant about how expecting or wanting money or gifts is prostitution and that it's all about the love here, remember that dating a married man is not exactly moral either.