If love was involved at all it came after the couple had been married.Even if love did not develop through marriage, the couple generally developed a friendship of some sort.There were many reasons a marriage could not take place, and strict rules for whether or not a divorce was allowed.
To marry for love without land or chattels could assure nothing but a life of penury. Not all young people, however, had marriages arranged for them.
Some were from poor families who had nothing to negotiate and hence would either not marry or marry whom they pleased.
It was even possible that in times of land shortage, family interference in marriage was less common because they had nothing to bargain with.
When someone says the word marriage today we think about two people who are in love and who want to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Most of the time they didn't even know the man before they were married.
Marriage was different in other ways back then too.
The family of the girl who was to be married gives a dowry,or donation, to the boy she is to marry.
The dowry goes with her at the time of the marriage and stays with the boy forever (Renolds).
In cases where the marriage was part of the family's economic and social strategy, careful planning by the whole unit was needed, for a good marriage could bring considerable economic benefits.
The prospective bride and groom also had an economic stake in a marriage contract, because it would determine not only who their life partner would be, but also how well they could expect to live.
We also carry on some of the same traditions in today's society.