There are no apps for girls under a certain weight, so creating something for bigger girls is basically segregating them from the norm. " SLi NK Magazine Editor Rivkie Baum told Huffington Post that Woo Plus' approach was "animalistic," adding, "I can’t help feeling that continuing to make bigger bodies into a fetish by segregating them continues to make falling in love with someone above a size 18 seem unusual." I understand every single one of their points, and for the most part, I agree wholeheartedly.
Some of Woo Plus' advertising is questionable, at best — the ad that Black highlighted in her tweet being a prime example. Could they have gone about these things far, far better? But is the actual woman's feeling in the aforementioned ad unrealistic? Because when, in this world, are fat women (and fat men, in all honesty) taught that they are just as sexually desirable as their thinner or toned counterparts?
Size discrimination runs rampant, and it affects everything from healthcare to employment to media to the size of seats on public transportation to the self esteem of individuals.
That it would also affect dating doesn't seem unreasonable.
But perpetuating as much only removes the autonomy of the many women who feel empowered by self-describing as a BBW.
However, a site for plus size dating doesn't have to be about "fetishism," if that's a term one is uncomfortable with.
I've been in a relationship with my current partner for over four years.
But if anything ever happened, I'd want to be with another someone who actually loves my body. This isn't to be confused with "someone who loves me for my body," and only that.
As Thorpe told ASOS in the same interview, "Personally, I am also not a fan of the term BBW — it makes me feel like I am a fetish purely for men and I’m not comfortable with that." Her thoughts on "BBW" aren't uncommon, and they're certainly understandable and valid.
For me, wanting to be with someone who loves my body isn't the same thing as wanting to be with someone who loves me for my body.
2015, but the app has recently skyrocketed to the press' eye, and to its fair share of criticism.
Refinery29's Liz Black took note of the app's "condescending ads," tweeting, "Like a plus size woman would be shocked a man thinks she's hot." Blogger Callie Thorpe of From The Corners Of The Curve told ASOS, "It feels that instead of addressing the way plus size women are treated in society — and most certainly on the dating scene — we are having to further separate them." In the same article, curve model Felicity Hayward said, "To then make a separate dating app for bigger girls is a completely backwards step.
But rather, someone who, like me, actually believes that fat can be beautiful and sexy and fuckable.