Dear Jean, I’m going to drop the dating coach bit for a second and just be a guy.
When I was dating prolifically, I’d be going out with two or three women at a time. But no matter what, I was looking to keep my options open, have fun, and sometimes get a little action.
“Instead of thinking in terms of black and white (He likes me/he doesn’t like me), think in terms of grey.
So what distinguishes when a guy goes on a date, has a good time, but is just “in the moment, and doesn’t call me back, versus a guy who had a good time with me and then calls me back? the guy knows this date isn’t going to be serious, before the date occurs?
Or does the “in the moment” feeling occur during the process of the date, which is dependent on the woman and on a date itself? How do you approach this dating, “in the moment” situtation? Maybe it’s just me, but all interactions with people mean something to me.
So if you really want to understand men, Jean, chew on this one for awhile: Men look for sex and find love. You would never sleep with someone you weren’t interested in. Our words are designed to charm you and make you feel comfortable.
Our actions reveal whether there’s any deeper intentions behind our words.
And every single time I went out, I did two things: In short, I wanted every single date to feel good about me, so I would have the option of going out with her again. And yes, I was always in pursuit of a long-term relationship.
I just didn’t want to deprive myself entirely of sexual activity until I fell in love.
You need to start using some qualifiers in your columns: MOST women.
I love helping people achieve their physical and mental goals.
So again, the only way you can tell if a guy is sincere is by WHAT KIND OF EFFORT HE MAKES FOR YOU AFTER YOU GO OUT.