You never know who will catch your eye at a bar, coffee shop or play — and if you see someone who interests you, don’t be afraid to say hello (see rule #3).
“The first step is getting back to basics and figuring out what your passions are, and also feeding your spirit and getting really solid with yourself,” Seltzer says.
“It can be overwhelming, so really focus on first before you get back into the dating pool.” Finding a group of single friends is the next step, says Seltzer (she adds, “If you don’t have ‘em, get ‘em! Going out and having a good time with friends can be a great way to both boost your confidence, adapt to your new single lifestyle and meet people.
If you’re still experiencing anger towards your former spouse and haven’t moved past constant thoughts of your marriage, you may not be ready to start dating yet.
According to Marni Battista, relationship coach and founder of Dating with Dignity, you’ll know that you’re ready when you can talk about your ex without having to put him or her down.
But by viewing dating as practice, you can minimize stress and anxiety around encounters that may not have gone as you’d hoped.
“Try to have a mindset that it’s just going to be fun, and that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get your Prince Charming,” says Seltzer.
“People expect, especially later in life, that dating is going to be the same as it was in their early 20s when they first were dating -– and it’s not at all,” matchmaker and dating coach Kimberly Seltzer tells the Huffington Post.
“The pool is different, and people have life experiences and stress to contend with.
Before you even think about going on your first date post-split, make sure to get back on track with yourself and adjust to your new single lifestyle.