And I am perfectly capable to make decisions based on a requests and a crisis in the moment.
My goal then, is to keep all requests out of crisis-mode.
I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still pre-college, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there are my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that I have to enforce as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids … Let’s take this from the perspective of a first date, rather than a developing relationship.
The issue is my management of my relationship with my kids and my ex-wife I can use the kids to get away with murder.
With a divorced mom as a date, I know that she will understand when the kids trump our plans.
There are plenty of single parents who use their kids to get out of almost every obligation. exercise, dating, taking responsibility for their own actions.
And I have been the dad who apologized for checking his phone when a text dinged while on a date.
That “best behavior” should be the model, within reason, for the relationship going forward.
Certainly things change as dating evolves into a relationship, but let’s take the first date as our benchmark for good behavior, especially on the divorced dad’s side of the dinner table.And as I have stated that I didn’t think I’d be interested in dating a woman who was not a mom, I’ve had to revise that statement, based on new information.My fear about dating a woman without kids is more about boundaries and time management. It’s not about her wanting more of my attention or not.Your willingness to let these types of requests presented as emergencies affect your plans can tell a lot about healthy boundaries and good parenting skills. Well, you might want to see why you’re no longer a priority. Make sure the two of you have a chance to establish enough rapport that you can ask, “Dude, if you don’t want to go to this event with me, just say it.” Kids can be the easy way out. Scenario 6: Playful kids will only be kids for so long Kids are our singular priority as parents.Scenario 2: Request The text could be a request from one of the kids or the ex. ” And depending on the situation, you can choose to ignore (The discussion that evening: “You needed to ask me the night before, because I’ve already got plans.”) or respond. As I move into a relationship with another woman, I know that too will become a priority.___A woman who goes by the name “Lucky” responded to one of my Single Dad Wants posts with a moving and impassioned comment that’s too long to reprint here (scroll down for it). Your man, your divorced dad, is lucky to have someone so understanding.