The inability to climax is arguably the most universal female sexual problem: Recent studies have suggested that roughly 75 percent of women can't orgasm through penetrative sex, and 10 to 15 percent can't orgasm under any circumstances.
And in fact, until recently, the sheer existence of the vaginal orgasm was questioned., not abnormal, and it doesn't mean that you can't still enjoy a fulfilling sex life.
Experiment with other ways of achieving orgasm, and make sure you have a partner who's willing to try a whole range of techniques to give you pleasure.
Needless to say, feeling unattractive (and trying to avoid positions that you fear may be unflattering) tends to kill the mood.
So instead of forcing yourself to have sex when you're not feeling up for it, try to do something that make you feel sexy, whether that's a night out with friends, taking a yoga class or treating yourself to a deep-tissue massage.
Performance anxiety isn't limited to men, and if your sex life isn't as mind-blowing as it could be, it's possible that your own worries are getting in the way.
Body image issues, orgasm obstacles and STD woes are just a few of the concerns that can keep women from letting go and enjoying their time between the sheets.
When you are ready to have sex again, focus on the sensations -- and remind yourself that you, like anyone else, deserve pleasure.
And consider this: While you're worrying about all the things you think are wrong with your body, your partner is probably appreciating everything he or she loves about it.Like negative body image, worry that your ladyparts are unattractive can seriously undermine your sexual confidence, and it's led many women to undergo surgical procedures to attain a more "desirable" vagina.The porn industry in particular has been instrumental in changing cultural conceptions of what a vagina "should" look like in order for it to be sexually appealing.With the right person and a little experimenting, you can have stellar sex -- it's just a matter of build up your confidence (see #2) and comfort level with your partner.And of course, as with anything else in life, practice makes perfect.Contrary to popular belief, married couples actually report having more regular sex and higher levels of sexual satisfaction than those who are single or in unmarried relationships.