But the simple truth is that messaging on the internet is nothing more than a fact-finding mission.You can gather information about the other person, but until you meet them you won’t know if ‘I love to laugh’ means Fawlty Towers or fart jokes. It’s easy to think you know a person better than you really do.
But it’s a thorny issue - and one that must be tackled, as more and more of us turn to the online dating.
No longer do we see tabloid headlines screaming ‘meet the couple who found love ON THE INTERNET!
Thankfully, the window isn’t too terrifying (no one is saying that you have to slurp coffee in the first 24 hours).
No, according to American researchers, the tipping point comes between 17 and 23 days after the first message is sent.
What’s more, a study by dating site e Harmony, estimated that seven in ten couples will have done so by 2040 – with 55 to 64-year-olds experiencing the biggest boom (an expected 30 per cent rise between 20).
Of course, exchanging a barrage of emails – even phone calls or Skyping– can seem more secure.
It feels a bit more intimate.” Of course, if you’re nervous, there are other things you can do to speed up the getting-to-know-you process.
One friend tells me that, if she has a positive feeling about someone, she gives them the details of her Facebook account and switches to messaging them away from the dating site.
Because it just isn’t a real relationship until you’re sat opposite each other, drinking lattes.