The term "ghosting" (sometimes known as the "slow fade") refers to the anecdotally pervasive act where one dater ends a relationship by simply disappearing.
('Tis the season, go with me here.) Trick-or-treaters go from house to house, tasting all different types of "candy" (aka men or women) until they're completely exhausted. In a 2012 study, researchers identified seven types of breakup strategies.
They go home, put on comfier clothes, consume literal candy until they can't even breathe declaring to their friends, "I'M NEVER DOING THIS AGAIN." That is, until a cute guy or gal ... Trick-or-treaters polled considered confrontation the best way to breakup, while they classified ghosting (avoiding/withdrawing from contact with your partner) the ideal method to end a relationship.
The You Gov/Huffington Post Poll confirmed these sentiments.
Only 13 percent of 1,000 adults polled consider breaking up electronically very appropriate or somewhat appropriate.
Yes, lack of response from someone you're digging feels crappy. Behrendt doesn't think so -- and he can't understand why humans can't apply the same understanding about changed feelings to relationship as they do to virtually everything else. about a band, about a food, about certain things you thought were fun that you don’t think are fun anymore.
But it becomes so profound in relationships like, 'that's never happened in the history of relationships and why would he just walk away?fter three months of dating, 23-year-old Michael was optimistic about his relationship with Linda*. Michael and Linda mutually agreed that they wanted to move forward in the relationship.They were together often, and he'd even met her parents. He dropped her off at home, kissed her goodnight ... After his attempts to reach her went unanswered, Michael put on his cute-guy hat and delivered Linda's favorite cupcakes to her office -- only to find out his name had been removed from the guest list at the gate."What I find weird is that there has to be an explanation after two dates.If someone doesn’t call you after a couple days, that should be enough to say, he's just not that...Chelsea, a 25-year-old Manhattanite who has been both a ghost and a ghostee says the fast-paced, onto-the-next mentality of online dating makes the need for an "it's not me, it's you," conversation irrelevant.