All too often, we hear that someone who’s socially awkward should get a pass because, hey, he doesn’t know that he’s doing something wrong! Sure, he stands too close, ignores signs that people don’t want to talk to him, keeps trying to give women massages and says incredibly inappropriate things to women at the drop of a hat… He just doesn’t know any better,” or “Hey, he’s a nice guy! Let’s run down just what makes someone creepy again: That second one is incredibly important and forms a critical distinction: creepers and predators will frequently push against people’s boundaries in order to see what they can get away with.
When they get caught, they’ll often claim to be “socially awkward” as a way of deflecting responsibility for their actions and – more importantly – putting pressure on their target to Someone who is socially awkward, on the other hand, is someone who has issues with basic social skills.
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It’s that time of year again: convention season gets started, students go on Spring Break and we brace ourselves for a new round of stories about creepers, predators and generally shitty dating behavior.
It means she’s not allowed to trust her instincts and instead should either magically intuit somebody’s intentions or just let the crowd override her decisions.
And this is where excusing creepy behavior as “just being awkward” gets especially insidious. well, most of college, honestly, was one long cringe-fest of not knowing how to talk to people, saying the wrong thing at the worst time and generally flailing around making things worse. You can almost always track the exact moment they realize that they’ve done something wrong by the way they desperately try to backtrack, apologize and generally try to reassure the other person that they didn’t mean to and they’re see? Or turning it around and making it about the person whose boundaries they just blew past.
They may have acute anxiety or nervousness in social settings.
They may not be used to social norms, have a hard time keeping the conversation flowing naturally, or get nervous and say the wrong thing at the worst possible time.The pressure to give someone a second chance – that they were just being awkward and the woman should just relax her boundaries a little – is telling a woman that she doesn’t have a right to establish her limits or to control who she does or doesn’t talk to.It carries the message that the right of a maybe-awkward-maybe-creepy guy to talk to her is more important than her right to feel safe and secure. Please check the URL to make sure you entered it correctly. La page demandée n'a pas été trouvée à l'adresse indiquée. Effectuez une recherche ou aller sur la page d'accueil.الصفحة المطلوبة غير متوافرة، يرجى التحقق من أن العنوان الذي أدخلته صحيحاًَ. Revise cuidadosamente la dirección de la página y asegúrese que está bien escrita.In fact, returning to the story of Fedora Beard, we see this in the commentary on the blogs that reported the story – she didn’t say “go away”, therefore how could he have known he was unwelcome? This is creepy behavior being excused as “socially awkward”. Can you imagine why this argument isn’t going to go over well with women? He may have said things that are creepy, violated her personal space, followed her when she was trying to leave the conversation and otherwise ignored signs that she was uncomfortable…