Most opinions agreed, without an outbreak, I was probably not contagious and should be just fine.
He promptly told me this was the worst news he had ever heard, and we broke up two short weeks later.
Since then, I have done lots of internet research, consulted with nurses and doctors, and done a little soul-searching to see how I should deal with the STD.
Dating With was created by Herpes Support Group Leaders to provide accurate, up-to-date info for people who have genital herpes (HSV-1, HSV-2) and their partners and families.
Genital Herpes is surprisingly common, yet most people who have it don’t even know it.
I have not had an outbreak since the original one and have a feeling it probably won’t come back.
Living with HSV1 is perfectly fine in my mind, but not in the minds of others.
This type of thing is disgusting, and often sexist, since it is usually males that are so willing to cast aside women who are biologically more likely to contract STDs in the first place.
The second is how to deal with other people who also have STDs.
The very first week of school, when asked point blank if I had ever had an STD, I blurted out, ‘Yes, I had a cold sore, but I’m not contagious.’ As a result of that little conversation, it was quickly disseminated to the student population that I had herpes, and I was best a stone left unturned. I managed to have a physical and emotional relationship with one person for about a year.
He had heard of HSV1 from a friend’s girlfriend, so he was very cool with it when I told him upfront (although he did ask how many sexual partners I had previously, as if that was some sort of indication why I had an STD).
It is possible to have a healthy and rewarding relationship with a woman who has herpes, but it is also essential to take precautions to reduce the likelihood that the condition is transmitted to you, her partner.