In fact, Gray's recommendations have parts in common with the player template.Perhaps the third hidden option has been 'learning the trade' while also understanding myself well enough to use the tools to get what I want, without losing the precious goal I set out to achieve. The player-esque parts of his template still rub me the wrong way, but I'm at least thinking about it with more of an open mind now. I learned that moral-spiritual rectitude and an honorable code aren't (always) enough.
This is a fun and enlightening stage and where you being to explore your physical relationship in greater depth.
Sex often happens at different times for different people, but during the fourth stage of dating is when the foundation for the relationship is generally solid enough to withstand the challenges that sex can bring.
This is the stage where you’re building the foundation for your relationship.
Couples begin to learn about their true selves because they are finally able to relax and “know” they are committed.
Lately, during the in-between time of riding the subway, I've been reading one of John Gray's Mars/Venus series of relationship books: Mars and Venus on a Date. which is not at all the same as saying I did it right or well. There aren't shortcuts and it's actually destructive to jump ahead, commit too early or try too hard. It's only a template, but still, my actions fit on it as do Traci's reactions.
It was on the reading shelf in my apartment's laundry room. As I hopefully made clear to the anonymous whoever-it-is who's followed me on-line and called me crazy whenever I mention Traci, my experience with her serves as a point of reference. It's a neat explanation for why everything I felt so strongly I was doing drove Traci further away from me, ie, the Shane Falco quicksand metaphor.
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Talking about that experience doesn't mean I still desire the girl. I'm not saying I believe that if I had followed Gray's formula Traci and I would have worked out as a couple. It is likelier, I think, that we either would have developed a real friendship or at least ended better. I left Korea without a doubt that I had to revamp my perspective and approach to courtship.