Playing hard-to-get and silly games have little value in the Netherlands but confidence and being to-the-point rank high.
The Netherlands has less of a Dutch men dating culture than other countries, for example the US or UK.
There are less ‘rules’ about when to call back, kiss or spend the night, and actions are based more on instinct rather than an unwritten play book.
Forget the sugar-coating – being down-to-earth and direct will earn a lot more points with a Dutch man or Dutch girls. Friends also usually kiss three times on the cheek in greeting, and although some strangers may kiss when being introduced to someone through a common friend, a handshake is more common. It is not uncommon to split the bill on the first date – right down to the last cent's worth of what you ate – regardless of whether your're dating a Dutch man or woman.
While neither Dutch women nor Dutch men are renowned for being touchy on a first date, direct eye contact is the norm so don't be put off if someone is staring your way. This shouldn't come as a surprise considering you are in the country that gave name to the phrase 'going Dutch' (splitting a bill).
Both Dutch women and Dutch men are renowned for being straight-forward in conversation, and little social negativity is attached to asking personal questions or openly stating one's unsolicited opinion in the Netherlands.
The Dutch tend to believe it is better to be honest than mislead someone.
To the untrained dater it may appear rude or direct but it is a refreshing scene of playing with your cards on the table.
Being successful in Dutch dating can require a level of assertiveness: if you want something, just do it.
This has changed the Dutch dating game in some respects as 'first dates' are moving to online dating platforms and social media.
However, some facts in the Dutch dating game remain true regardless of where you meet new people.
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