You might find yourselves spending more time together, particularly if the relationship is getting serious.Alternatively you may find you aren’t that compatible.
Noting why you feel as you do, reminding yourself there is currently nothing to worry about, and focusing on enjoying all your life are all ways to cope.
In the coming weeks or months you may find things just develop without either of you having to do anything much about it.
The good news is you’ve met someone you really like. Outside of that you also have friends, hobbies, interests, and perhaps work or study to keep you busy.
Use this as an opportunity to fill your life with things you like, including him.
He may be someone who always has a lot going on in his life, maybe or maybe not by choice. Petra Boynton is a social psychologist and sex researcher working in International Health Care and studying sex and relationships. Please note that by submitting your question to Petra, you are giving your permission for her to use your question as the basis of her column, published online at Wonder Women.
In thinking about what you want from a relationship it might be you need someone who will put you first and desire a partnership where you spend a lot of time together. All questions will be kept anonymous and key details, facts and figures may change to protect your identity.At which point you may be relieved you didn’t rush in.We are led to believe that a perfect or proper relationship involves long term commitment to someone who you put first, see a lot of and have at the centre of your life.This model suits many people, but doesn’t fit all of us.Some people have hobbies, interests or other commitments that are their priority. Still more may find that circumstances dictate they cannot be with their partner as much as they would like, perhaps due to having to be apart for work, study or caring for a relative. Email your sex and relationships queries in confidence to:[email protected] Petra cannot print answers to every single question submitted, but she does read all your emails.Sometimes he says he can’t see me as he’s with his mates.